Women lie. I know this isn’t a secret. Most people are untruthful at one time or another, even if only to themselves. That’s not what I’m here to discuss, so stop queuing up Maury clips to prove your point. I’m talking this one simple lie almost every woman tells to one strange man or another: “I’m sorry, but I have a boyfriend.”
You may ask yourself, “Well, what’s so difficult about telling the truth?” Nothing about it is difficult, except…everything is. Telling a person that you’re basically not interested in them isn’t the easiest thing to do. It’s not that women believe your world will end by letting you down; it just seems a little harsh. Especially if the guy seems like a nice dude. If the chance is slim that we’ll see you again, “I have a boyfriend” is often viewed as a means to bypass an unpleasant situation with a cool person.
But not ALL of yall are cool. There are seven types of fellas that warrant an unabashed lie:
1. He’s old enough to be our Dad
…’s dad. It’s unfortunate that you squandered your youth, and woman your age are over your foolishness. It’s even more unfortunate that you’re looking for love at Love. I’m 34 and consider myself too old for Love. What are you doing playa? You’re trying to get these young ladies’ phone numbers because what? You presume that they’re not smart enough to be up on your tired game? Or do you need a young pair of eyes to check your blood pressure monitor? I need you, your corn pads, your Grecian Formula and your “shote set” to evacuate the premises. My fake boyfriend doesn’t like it when I come home smelling like Theragesic. Please and thanks.
2. He has all the signs and symptoms of a Bugaboo
Some of your brethren have that wild look in their eyes. A look that says, “I can’t wait to call this woman until her battery commits suicide.” Virtually everything about this type of cat seems normal, but something is just off. That’s the part of their mind that has decided it’s okay to call, hang up and hit redial for 48 straight hours, and when you finally answer, say something inane like, “Hey stranger,” or “Oh…I didn’t expect you to answer. You busy?” I once mistakenly gave my number to a guy with this look in his eye. Within fifteen minutes of meeting, he’d called me three times. Then proceeded to call 37 times that day. Once you give him your number, you’ve told him you’re free, so do yourself a favor. Lie! You might want to make your fake boyfriend a Navy SEAL or something.
3. He’s this guy:
You’re not even a closet bugaboo. You won’t give a woman the opportunity to say they’re gay, straight, single, married, terminally ill or joining the French Foreign Legion. This type of guy doesn’t even require further explanation as to why he’s on this list.
4. He’s a Serial Thigh Rapist
It’s 2011, and thigh rape is still a rampant club activity. If you are a man and are being told, “You know how to attract strange women? Run up to them without introducing yourself on the dance floor, and start humping her leg like a sexy, but frustrated terrier,” punch him in the face. He’s only telling you this so that he can collect the women that are running away from you. If you’re dancing with a girl and yall are mutually bumping and grinding, I’ll let you cook. But your erection should not be your calling card. So yes, if you ask for the digits, we’re suddenly booed up.
5. HE doesn’t even like himself
Sometimes people just present themselves wrong. Almost every woman knows the self-proclaimed nice guy who is a chronic complainer. If the first impression of you is someone who is irritable and ill at ease with themselves, we don’t want to be a part of that. You’re not that nice…and you’re kind of boring. In the spirit of sisterhood, we’ll make up a boyfriend to spare the NEXT sister from hearing your woeful tale as a nice guy that finishes last.
6. He looks like he’d bust a cap in our ass
Some of you are flat out scary. As a young woman, I was always taught to be cautious about how to turn men down. In my family, there’s always been a story of some woman who was hit, stabbed or shot by being just a little too haughty in turning a dude down. Sometimes, it was just a matter of having the gall to turn a dude down at all. If you look like you know how to hide bodies or turn a bar of soap into a weapon, a fictitious (cop) boyfriend is a lady’s best bet.
7. He’s some unfortunate combination of Numbers 1-6
And he looks like this
Some fellas take this alleged man shortage TOO seriously, refuse to develop any discernible social skills, and has decided that personal grooming and plummet back into the pit of hell from which it descended. Not being interested is NEVER enough for this guy. He demands a Motion and Order in Support of My Right to Deem You a Fuck Nugget. Oftentimes, he’s making these demands with breath that smells like 25 pounds of GetBack. For this guy, it is important that you not only create a boyfriend, but befriend some normal guys in the area, because you’ll need reinforcements.
If you, or someone you love fits one or more of these descriptions, take the steps to incite change. Reach out to give or receive the help that is so desperately needed. Friends don’t let friends remain leptons.