Sex is some good stuff. There are countless reasons and ways to have sex. It’s pretty much like chicken. Sure it can be bad, but you have to go out of your way to mess it up. I’m slow to dismiss a fella as wack in the sack, simply because I’m not picking up what he’s putting down. Sometimes, things are a matter of style and preference. What’s toe curling to one person, is puzzling to the next. For example, I don’t want “it done to me.” I also don’t want to “do it to” anyone else.
Allow me to explain.
I believe that when I have met an individual with whom I have embarked upon a mutual agreement to share naked time, I don’t want him to turn into a one man show of turning me out. Conversely, this is not Magic City meets the Bunny Ranch.* I feel a lot of us get so caught up in being remembered as spectacular, ground breaking lovers, we forget why we’re there in the first place. I’m all into the sharing of energies and being present in the moment. I can’t be concerned with whether or not you’re going to mark me down in history as the premier fellatio artist of the new millennium. Plowing me into the next room through the headboard AND the wall in the name of “blowing my back out” is also quite unnecessary.
Quality is certainly Job One in my camp. I gets down for my crown, and I expect my dude to do the same for his. The porn star fixation is lost on me. I find it to be contrived, insincere and frankly, insecure. Homie, if I’m already sharing sexual space with you, it means I like you and want you to have a good time too. If the neighbors knowing your name is more important to you, be my guest. Just understand that I’m not the girl for you. As far as blowing my back out – let’s don’t and say we did,* and focus on having a good time.
*I mean, unless we agreed upon…nevermind.